Why and how come?

When I think back about all the steps we took to get to the place where we knew for certain that my daughter had dyslexia I have some general questions for the Universe.

How come I had to pay to have a private reading specialist look at my daughter and declare that yes, she did believe she needed to be seen by a pediatric neuropsychologist in order to see if she had dyslexia.  Shouldn't the teachers at her Catholic School (or any school for that matter) been able to tell this when my bright child wasn't responding to either their classroom methods or the special tutoring she was getting?

How come the other day when our (admittedly terrible) district was writing my son's IEP they didn't have any Baseline information at all and he had to be tested (yet again). Just to get this process started.  Why did my Child Advocate have to be the one to point this out and tell these district folks how to do their job?

Why is it like rocket science to notice a child probably has dyslexia if you work in a school whereas I'm just a mom with no education background whatsoever and I can tell which of my children's classmates probably would come up with a dyslexia diagnosis should they be tested by a pediatric neuropsychologist (I'm just saying if I can spot dyslexia why cant a teacher?)

Why don't districts know how to do the job of writing an appropriate IEP and why are they so unwilling to?

Why don't general school tutors come right out and say,  "You know I am supposed to be able to re-mediate dyslexia based on my training, but to tell the truth I've never had much success at it."  Instead of being all defensive and saying crap like, "I only teach to the IEP."

How come Reading Recovery promoters cant come right out and admit that their methodology doesn't work for dyslexia, rather than have everyone have to learn the hard way?

Why is it so hard to find a good Orton Gillingham trained tutor, and not the damn weekend class either?  Is there some elitist conspiracy out there.  Shouldn't there be at least one of these in every school in the country?

I could probably go on but this is enough for now.